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Through the Woods to the Sea: A Journey of Becoming Me

For a while I was putting up chapters here but then I got so entrenched in the editing process that I kind of neglected that. After several rewrites and many – many edits and a  title change my memoir is done.

It was published at the end of April and we have been doing a soft release. As I get ready to put it out into the world it is scary exciting! This is after all my life, my story, events and details.

Why would anyone want to read about me? my life?

I hope that in sharing my story other women who have been through challenges, lost their sense-of-self, felt empty or gave up on their dreams to meet the demands of others or the world will feel connected and not alone. I hope it inspires you to believe in yourself and follow your dreams at any age or stage of life.

It is never to late to become your true self and live the life you dreamed about in secret.

It has arrived. Come along and be a part of My Journey of Becoming Me!
Get it on Amazon.com
or at The Mermaid’s Purse and Sugar Island  Bakery              on Topsail Island


update Memoir CoverIn her Memoir, Through the Woods to the Sea: A Journey of Becoming Me, she shares her story, her life, and her journey of stepping out of life to create one. It is one of emotion, hope, perseverance, letting go and beginning again.

“I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. What a journey you have been and still are on. I laughed, I cried, I rejoiced in your life experiences.” Marie


I’d love to hear your story – send me an email at cathyt@cathyteoste.com or jump onto my facebook page

Where has the Summer Gone??

Summertime is always a busy time of year here on Topsail Island. This summer has been no exception.

Tourists have arrived in swarms it seems. Keeping the shops and stores busy.  It makes our work days longer with little time off.  That is great for the local economy that relies so much on these few short months to survive all year.

Working more hours and then trying to enjoy as much beach time as I love fills many hours and days. However, that is not what kept me off the computer and from posting articles. I actually did write an article – the next installment of Sister Travel Adventures and then forgot I had written it as I got sidetracked with a major life situation.

At the end of June my roommates and I received notice of termination of our lease as the house we had been renting for five years was to be ready and put on the market for sale. We did know that this would happen eventually but really thought that the owners aware of how life revolves on the island would wait until after the summer season to make us leave. Wrong!!!

Finding a new place to live as the summer season approaches is the worst possible time. And with not enough time to actually find a place and actually move it was a challenge. I requested an extension so we could move after the season was over but it was denied. So we began looking for a needle in a haystack.

Mermaids, Dolphins, Angels, Universal Flow, Karma and Connections all came together for us and a wonderful miracle happened. A house became available to us closer to the beach on second row. A cute little pink house across from a beach access with an upper deck with an ocean view! A blessing in disguise.

Moving consumed my summer, packing and packing, moving and unpacking. I have been writing but haven’t been on the computer much at all. I have been enthralled and entrenched in real life. These last weeks have been wonderful.

I have been spending much more time on the beach. I have been scribbling on pages of notebooks. I have had visitors, my sister, my daughter and a friend. Life has been good after a month and a half of not good. It has been worth it but in the living I have lapsed on one of my passions. Writing and connecting with you through my writing.

Now I am preparing for another Sister Travel Adventure and realized that the last adventure never got posted. I knew I had started writing it but didn’t realize that I had finished it and put it aside to edit and get the pictures together.

I am dusting it off now and finishing the editing. Getting the photos connected will take some time but I am determined to get them done in the next week of so. I will intertwine this with preparing for our next adventure and will give you some info on our next adventure before we leave.

Hope you rejoin me in my Adventures; Life is taking a wonderful new turn after the summer storm has dissipated. My love of the ocean is back in full swing as I sit from my new room looking out the door at her roaring waves from a tropical depression out at sea.

Live Life, Enjoy, Go on Adventures. Let life take you on Adventures and see where it may lead you.


Is Running Away Always the Wrong Thing to Do?

Someone close to me recently had decided to move away and begin a new life and then suddenly 3 days later changed their mind and went back to their old life. In their explanation they said that they felt that they couldn’t run away from their problems and they realized that running away from them wasn’t the right thing to do.

Which prompted me to feel hurt and admonished because basically that is what I did a little over 8 years ago. I ran away from my life when it fell apart and I had no idea what to do next. For a brief moment I felt ashamed of myself and the fact that I ran away.

So the question arises is running away always the wrong thing to do or can it sometimes be exactly the right choice?

I agree that running away doesn’t solve your problems. You carry with you any problems that are inside you. And some problems and situations follow you wherever you go. If you are just running away to hide or ignore problems rather than face and deal with them then maybe you do need to face them directly. If you are running towards something like a new career or lifestyle then isn’t that a good thing? Even if you are leaving a situation that is full of issues and problems?

Isn’t moving to a new place and creating a new different life a great way to change your life and resolve some issues and problems you have been having? If nothing else moving away even briefly can help see your life and yourself from a different perspective. You can even discover new solutions and opportunities that you had no idea existed or that didn’t exist in your current environment.

I didn’t run away to create a new life. I did run away from the life I was being left with and the choices that were in front of me. I didn’t like the options and choices I was being presented with. I had no idea what I could do or what I wanted. I just felt like I had to get away.

My first year away I didn’t make any attempt to create a new life. I just lived in the present moment. I focused on what was there happening where I was. In reality I was hiding out. I was far away from family and friends at a retreat center. Not having a clue what to do next I took an opportunity to volunteer at a retreat center just so I could get away from the life around me and from the life I was expected to live and the choices I thought I was expected to make. At the time I wasn’t running towards anything. I really was just running away from my situation and the problems that existed.

After much time just being and living day to day I did begin to ponder and explore ideas of what I wanted in life, what kind of life was important to me and to consider beginning to create that life. Running away from my life and the problems around the life I was living and the problems within myself was exactly what I needed. It turned out to be the blessing I needed.

I could have chosen to return to the life I was left with and rebuild my life from all the broken pieces. I didn’t choose that. I chose instead to move to a new place and begin over again. Not only create a new life for myself but to reinvent myself too. This has been the best decision I have ever made.

It could have fallen apart or been a disaster or not worked. At any time I could have changed my mind and returned home. The truth is that home didn’t exist anymore in the place I had grown up or lived. It isn’t even really in this particular town and community that I live in now. It is home because I am here and I am here.

Home is not always a particular place. It is a place within myself. For me home is where my heart is, where I am at peace, content and happy.

The ocean is my home. That is where I am content and at peace. Enjoying a meal and a glass of wine with people who I enjoy their company with is home. Traveling to new places is home. Meeting new people is home. Sailing on the ocean is home. Visiting with my children is home. Visiting and traveling with my sister is home.

In a way you could say I am always running away. I love to go somewhere new. I know that I could pack up and begin over again in another place. I may someday. In fact the idea intrigues me. So I may just run away again someday.

I believe that running away isn’t always the wrong thing to do. I don’t believe it is a bad choice. Starting over can be the best choice. It all depends on what is in your heart and what is the best choice for you.

So what do you think? Is running away a good choice or a bad choice? Is someone wrong for choosing to walk away and begin again? Is the only way to solve problems by facing them head on directly where they were created? Or can a change of environment change perspective, open new opportunities and resolve issues and problems in a different way?