December 12

Give Yourself Limits and Boundaries

Do you burn out, get stressed out and spend the holidays tired, rushed, frustrated and/or unhappy?

Or do you set boundaries and limits on your time, space and energy?

We usually want to make holidays a joyful time. We want to make sure those around us are happy. We want everyone to be happy and no one’s feelings to be hurt. We want everyone to feel welcomed. The holidays are supposed to be fun and enjoyable. It is a time for family, connection, laughter, joy and miracles.

Putting boundaries in place can feel harsh or unkind, but in the long run, boundaries can help keep the peace and the peace of mind when many different expectations and personalities are in play in a family gathering.

Setting boundaries is challenging and courageous.

You can simultaneously set boundaries and be loving, compassionate, and kind, all while making clear that your boundary is non-negotiable.

Be clear. Be specific. Use “I” sentences. Be gentle, skillful but firm. Be understanding and forgiving of those who don’t like or understand your boundaries or limits. Be consistent.

It’s ok to say NO to events and activities you don’t enjoy or can’t fit into your schedule. It’s ok to need time and space alone. You don’t have to go into debt to give everyone the perfect gift. You don’t even have to give everyone a gift. It’s ok to disengage from controversial or uncomfortable conversations or uncomfortable family dynamics.

Setting Good Limits and Boundaries will make the difference between enjoying the Holiday Celebrations and not enjoying them.

Enjoy the Holidays Set Good Boundaries